Dude Looks Like a Lady Contest

I know this has nothing to do with torture but I think this is important nevertheless

Last night at Relay for Life, there was a Dude Looks Like a Lady contest where a male member of each relay team dressed up like a women and put on a fashion show to raise money for the cause. Although it was funny and the guys who dressed up looked hilarious, I was hit with the realization that I had never encountered a Girl Looks like a Man contest ever in my life. When men dress up like women, especially in situations where it is meant to be in good fun, such as the Hasty Pudding Theatricals at Harvard, no one seems to have a problem with it. When girls dress up like guys, even in theatrical events, there is a stigma placed on the girl. I do not want to sound like a feminist but for the longest time, women were condemned for wearing pants. My idol, Katherine Hepburn, was often criticized for dressing in stereotypical men's attire such as suits and blazers. Truth be told, it is a lot funnier when guys dress like girls then the other way around, so I figure that is why those kinds of contests are more popular. I never really thought of it before, and it only came to my attention last night, seeing as I had tons of time to be with my thoughts.

Q: Why do you think Girl Looks Like a Man contests have never materialized?

How Relay for Life Had Me Thinking About Torture

From 6pm on April 29 to 8am on April 30, I participated in Bershire County All College Relay for Life. This event raised money for the American Cancer Society to help fight cancer. For roughly twelve hours, I and many others walked in circles around the quad while a DJ blasted music at earsplitting levels. Now in all fairness, I had a really great time. I walked with my friends and we played games and danced to music. The food was good and everyone was in good spirits. Yet, as I began to start what seemed as my five hundredth lap around the quad and my knees and hips began to give out, I started to think of how easily this event could be used as torture. Even though I was having an awesome time, the lack of sleep and the physical toll on my body was significant; to make things simple let me say I walked for 10 hours at a clip of 3 miles an hour. In all, I walked roughly 30 miles in a fourteen hour period. If I was a prisoner of war and I was made to walk all night around in a circle with strange music blasting from loudspeakers without anyone to talk to, I would definitely go crazy. The pain that I would be feeling physically combined with the mental state created by this environment would be unbearable.

Q: Have you ever been in a position where your body and mind was pushed to their limits?

In response to Jenny Beer's question

Q: Is talking about and/or seeing torture difficult for you? Is it too extreme like me or are you interested as well as disturbed? 

The sad reality of American today is that torture has become a norm in our society. As a result, I have become somewhat immune to the entire topic of torture, especially today's form of it. Somehow it is a lot easier to discuss waterboarding then forms of medieval torture such as impalement and coffin torture (If anyone is interested in medieval torture here's a cool website that discusses the different types of torture devices used in the Middle Ages: Torture).

I can remember when I first saw the photos taken at Abu Ghraib. I felt a sense of disconnect between the images and what I should have been feeling. In my head, I knew what I was seeing was appalling and heinous but I felt absolutely nothing. On the other end, when I read 1984 and Winston was tortured in room 101, I had a hard time stomaching through the chapter. I guess that some of the reason I felt more for Winston was that I had formed a connection with him through reading the novel, and I instinctively wanted him to beat Big Brother. The victims of Abu Ghraib on the other hand were nameless faceless individuals. I had no emotional investment in them. Later on, when I watched a documentary of Abu Ghraib during my senior year in high school, I cried when I saw the same photos I had seen six years prior. This was because the documentary had given the nameless faceless individuals identities; the documentary portrayed them as human beings.

Q: Why do you think so many Americans still support the use of torture, especially after incidents such as Abu Ghraib have been made public?

Waterboarding

I was shifting through torture articles online when I came across a piece in Vanity Fair magazine called "Believe Me, It's Torture". The article recounted how one of the magazine's writers, Christopher Hitchens, subjected himself to waterboarding to experience firsthand what it would be like to undergo the process. At the time this piece was written in 2008 and essentially all throughout the Bush Administration, waterboarding was a highly debated subject. The main dispute over waterboarding was whether it was actually a form of torture. Waterboarding, for those who are unfamiliar with the term, is a process in which an individual is strapped to a wood board with a towel across his mouth, which is continuously soaked with water so the individual feels as though he is slowly drowning. For most people, the description of waterboarding alone would convince them that it is a form of torture, but just to drive the point home, Hitchens agreeded to undergo waterboarding and have his experience recorded for the world to see.

There were two things that really struck me with this article. The first was that Hitchens exposed a little known fact that waterboarding was actually a training method used by Americans to train other Americans to resist enemy interrogation. The United States military came up with waterboarding as a simulated form of torture that terrorist might use on Americans. The irony of this whole situation is not lost on me. How could American interrogators waterboard suspected terrorists knowing firsthand what it was like to be in the terrorists' shoes? Obviously I am not a highly trained military official but I know if I underwent a horrendous ordeal such as waterboarding, I certainly would not want anyone to go through what I went through.

The other point that stood out for me was when Hitchens briefly mentioned how waterboarding did not simulate a sense of being drowned but actually drowned the individual being waterboarded. Simulation and actuality are two completely different things. Going on a simulated amusement ride at a park, say a ride that simulates going into outer space, is not the same thing as actually going into outer space. There are a lot less risks in going on a simulated ride then in experiencing the process firsthand. Simulated rides or experiences can bring about sensations of undergoing a real life situation and thus produce similar reactions as if the situation were real, such as a person feeling afraid while watching a horror movie; however, the person in the theater watching the horror movie is in no real danger. If waterboarding goes beyond simulation, which in itself can cause severe physical and psychological problems and is morally objectible, then waterboarding needs to be eradicated.

Here is the video of Christopher Hitchens being waterboarded. Warning: This video contain some disturbing content. Here's also a link to the article: Waterboarding Article

In Response to Shannon

Growing up, my parents utilized two different types of parenting styles, authoritarian and authoritative. Their authoritarian style of parenting lasting from the time I could talk up until I entered middle school. As a young child, my life was laid out for me by my parents. I was told what to wear, who to be friends with, how to act, and what activities I was allowed to be involved in. There were many rules in my house that my brother and I had to follow. For instance, neither my brother nor I could play with friends after school. We both were made to go straight home and complete our homework. Then, if we had time, we were permitted to play in our backyard, as long as we had helped prepare for dinner. There were also rules about swearing and talking back to our parents; I can remember being grounded for entire summers because I had sworn in my parents' presence. For the longest time, I grew up in a very controlled, strict household.

As I grew older, my parents grew relaxed in their parenting style. It became less what they wanted for me and more what I wanted for myself. I could choose the activities I wanted to be involved with; for instance, I was able to give up Girl Scouts and start running track. My parents still had high expectations when it came to school and my grades. I continued to get grounded for bad marks (in my house anything lower than a B was horrible) and I still could not go out after school. However, I started to have more freedom in the way I dressed, and I was able to choose the friends I wanted to hang out with. This greater sense of freedom made me feel more in control, and I was less likely to act out.

Without a doubt, I would definitely be a different person if my parents had chosen to bring me up with a different parenting style. I think I would be more outgoing if my parents had been less authoritarian and more authoritative. As I am now, I am too shy and less assertive. I tend to accredit this to my lack of say in my house as a child. I also know my relationship with schools and my grades would not be the same growing up in a different household. Still to this day, I am always afraid to get back my grades because I am worried about how well I did and if my parents would approve. On the other hand, my parents did instill in me some valuable traits that I could not live without. My parents taught me to be well mannered and polite. They pushed me to go beyond my limits and be the best at whatever I did. Sometimes, they might have pushed me too far, but no parent is perfect.

Q: Do you agree with how you were raised? What parenting style do you think produes the best results?

Response to "Patriotic Millionaires"

First I have to say, I think it is really sad that in this day in age, US citizens have to petition the government in order for it to do its job. Citizens, in this case millionaires, should not have to tell the government that it needs to tax the rich in order to stabilize the economy. Furthermore, I find it disturbing that the millionaires are calling themselves patriots. Is it because they are offering to give up some of their income to taxes, which they should be doing in the first place? Or is it because they want to save the country which allows them to make so much money? The millionaires are not patriots. They have just as much stake in this country as the average citizen.

Q: How do you think Congress will act to these sorts of petitions?

In response to Julia's question "Do you find people more attractive because of their looks or their personalities upon first impression? Most people make an initial impression of someone based on their looks. Do you agree or disagree with this? Why are looks, and not other qualities such as intelligence and compassion, most highly valued in our society?"

Although it is sad to say, for first impressions, looks tend to be more important than personality. Society is obsessed with appearances. Case in point my favorite series"What Not to Wear". For those not familiar with the show, two style experts spend an entire week fixing a fashion train wreck. During almost every episode, the person who is having their wardrobe overhauled says something to the extent that appearances should not matter. The style experts quickly get the subject to realize that in order to play the part one must look the part. A lot of the people on the show are up and coming professionals, and their attire is preventing them from being taking seriously. They soon learn that although it might be superficial, appearances play an important part in society.

While looks are important, they can only take people so far. People also need vibrant personalities to take themselves to the next level. I know of people who on first impression were extremely attractive, but the more I got to know them and recognize their personalities, the less time I wanted to hang out with them. Beautiful people can turn ugly if their beauty is only skin deep.

Q: What is your opinion of plastic surgery? Is it a result of society's obsession with youth and beauty or is it more personal?